A Few Useful Lessons Learned.

• Happily ever after does not exist and that is not a bad thing.

Honestly, happily ever after would get kind of boring. If we all got along all the time and shared the same ideas and opinions we would still be in the school fish stage of evolution. We are all human and no human is perfect. We are all full of massive amounts of bull shiz.

• It’s ok to not love every little teeny tiny detail about your partner.

Do not feel like you have to enjoy the smell of their B.O. or the way they don’t flush every time the go to the bathroom. Your job as a loving partner is to ask yourself if you can live with those things you don’t like and still love your significant other for who they are. The tricky part is admitting if you can’t and understanding that forcing something like that is likely to end up with pain and frustration. We all have had the “but I can change them thought”. I am not saying it is impossible for someone to change their ways, you can not force it.

• You will never be the true cause of someone else’s change. You have to accept, they must be personally willing and determined to change themselves or nothing is ever going to stick.

You may see results from a reluctant participant if you are forceful enough, but the results you see are guaranteed to be temporary and you will only be causing more resentment and distance between you and your partner.

My Advice to EVERYONE.

• Be self aware: You are you, no one else. You need to be aware of your thoughts, actions, intentions, etc. If you need a reason why you need to know yourself, you need more help than a blog can provide. But, keep an eye out because I’ll end up posting more on self awareness eventually.
• Take breaks: If you are self aware you will be able to more easily pinpoint when you are getting overwhelmed, uneasy or drained. These things can cloud our thought process. Making you, over all, inefficient in all aspects of life from work to conflict with a loved one.
• Self Reflect: Regularly take time to reflect on your needs, wants, thoughts and feelings. Take note of your actions and reactions, think about the outcomes they produced and possible alternatives. This is a good way to be productive with your break time if you find it hard to just sit and do nothing. In doing this regularly you will naturally find yourself becoming more self aware on a daily basis.